Tuesday, October 9, 2007

Old friends, new lives

Do you know people that just seem to have so many friends they can't even keep 'em all straight? I have had the amazing good fortune throughout my life to be one of those people. I've been pretty social most of my life and I genuinely like people, so it all came real easy. Not just acquaintances either, but good friends who cared about me a lot.
It seems life always intervenes, though doesn't it? Times change, people come and go and friends wander in and out of our lives. I've always believed that certain people are only intended to be in our lives for a short while and when we have each given what was needed to the other, then we move on.
Recently, I had the amazing experience of running into an old friend that I hadn't seen for probably 15 or 20 years. Wow, was that a surprise! Years ago we were best friends, practically inseparable through high school. We had so much fun and got into SOOOO much trouble! It was everything that a friendship between a couple of kids should be. Unfortunately we really lost touch. I blame a lot of that on me. I've spent most of my life staying in my own space as much as I can. I venture into someone's life and when I think I need to, I venture back out. Now here I am at an age I can no longer deny is middle age. I have narrowed the number of my friends considerably. I have also improved the depth and quality of my friendships and I make a real effort to stay in touch now. I don't know if its age or what. I think I've learned that I get to choose who to share my life with and quality beats the heck out of quantity every time.
I reconnected with another old friend a couple years back. That has undoubtedly been one of the best decisions I have ever made. We picked up right where we left off and we are as close as two friends can be. I am hoping to reconnect with this old high school friend in that same way.

We have different lives now--new lives. But that doesn't mean there isn't room for old friends! What do you think??

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